Text by Ann Zaprazny
Photo by Hannah Gibbs on Unsplash
In this article, you will gain insight into achieving more success in sports and life.
Want more success in sports and life?
Drop your expectations!
If curiosity killed the cat, expectations stressed the athlete.
It stresses the athlete.
Goals are aspirational.
Expectations are what we internalize and believe we should achieve.
When we don’t achieve our expectations, we may be brutal on ourselves for falling short.
Athletes often have ambitious goals and unrealistic expectations.
It’s important to have goals.
It’s counterproductive to have unrealistic expectations. Unrealistic expectations often lead to disappointment, anger, and frustration derailing performance.
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List your expectations.
Be honest and list them.
Then do a google search to see who has accomplished your expectations consistently.
You get the idea.
None of these athletes' expectations are realistic. Imagine the internal stress associated with these expectations for these athletes.
So what’s the answer?
Play with no expectations, high confidence, and focus on the process, not the outcome.
No expectations. None. Drop them.
Releasing personal expectations is hard to do. Very hard to do. You have years of thinking and EXPECTING lots of yourself. To make the change, you have to first acknowledge your expectations.
List them. Be transparent and list them. Most of them will be outcome-based.
Once you drop your expectations, replace your expectations with process goals.
When we focus on the process, execution, and on doing the small things correctly, the outcome will follow.
Parents can fuel an athlete's “expectation cycle.” Think about the questions you may ask after an athletic event. Often questions are strictly outcome-based:
A Better Conversation
Imagine how your son or daughter would feel if they heard you ask
We don’t want the stress of personal expectations to spoil the journey of the sport.
Understanding and managing personal expectations in sports are important for sport and life.
How many situations do you know that went awry because the expectations for the moment were unrealistic.
Apply the same exercises we just walked through for sport to a personal situation. Expectations often lead to disappointment, anger, and frustrations.
Drop your expectations. No one in the game of sport nor life is PERFECT.
Focus on one play, one race, one moment at a time.
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